tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4976283321932512167.post7871979522559382195..comments2023-09-04T06:26:16.361-05:00Comments on A Life At Home: How do you afford all those children? - Part 1Teresahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15659128838097326959noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4976283321932512167.post-69729498381204381102009-03-05T08:03:00.000-06:002009-03-05T08:03:00.000-06:00Absolutely agree with you. I'm the mother of thre...Absolutely agree with you. I'm the mother of three children and stepmom to three more (we have stepchildren here every weekend and hope to have custody someday -- they are currently with their maternal grandparents). With the money we bring home (after hubby pays child support), we would be considered to be living below the poverty line. But my children have healthy food, shelter, nice clean clothes, and love. We can't always give them what they want, but they have what they need with a few extras thrown in. It takes creativity: Learning how to stretch the food budget, cooking more meals from scratch or with a few inexpensive shortcuts instead of packaged foods and eating out too many times, not being afraid to let friends and family know you would be more than happy to take their kids' outgrown clothing or toys, shopping end-of-season clearance racks and thrift stores, yard sales and online yard-sale-type sites for toys, furniture, etc. Our home is decently furnished mostly with hand-me-downs (we put the word out when hubby and I were about to move in together and couldn't buy everything new all at once, and family and friends stepped up and helped). Creativity is key. My son, who like me and his stepdad is musically inclined, gets free saxaphone lessons by joining our local marching band (they do marching music and classical music), and he loves it. In exchange for showing up for gigs and practices, he gets free lessons. I could go on and on, but I'm sure you know what I'm talking about.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4976283321932512167.post-10803657336087762912008-04-16T20:41:00.000-05:002008-04-16T20:41:00.000-05:00This was truly such a beautiful post. Thank you so...This was truly such a beautiful post. Thank you so much for sharing.<BR/><BR/>I am the youngest of 8, and growing up (even still) I'd hear that my father must be loaded. NOT THE CASE! lol He provided well for us, but as you pointed out, that didn't = buying us costly items. <BR/><BR/>I get discouraged when people already tell me we can't afford more kids, when we only have 2. TWO! I am a SAHM, and that also seems to let people think we can "afford" it. Well, we're still renting, and we only have 1 car, and my dh works 2 jobs right now. BUT, we are a good family and our boys are happy. Dh and I are happy. Money doesn't buy happiness.<BR/><BR/>Sorry this was so long. Thanks again for this beautiful post.Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13828182765416909622noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4976283321932512167.post-30931383451988767852008-04-14T08:43:00.000-05:002008-04-14T08:43:00.000-05:00Anonymous,I can assure you that I have heard just ...Anonymous,<BR/>I can assure you that I have heard just about every comment that people can think of. None of which are that original. <BR/><BR/>The comments for the most part do not bother me, people just aren't used to seeing a large family anymore. Yes, it can sting and yes, people can be very rude. <BR/><BR/>Number 4 and 5 is when it was the worst. I guess people think we've just lost our minds now.-lol I can say that we receive many more good comments now than bad comments. <BR/><BR/>We just try to be a good example of what a family should be. <BR/>While i'm not here to try to convince anyone to have as large of a family as I do, I do want to show people that it is possible to raise more than 2 children and still give them everything they need.<BR/><BR/><BR/><I>"People, we just need to be careful with what is coming out of our mouths. Especially when the kids are around. You never know when it could really hurt someone. While it may just be a joke, or you just don't know what to say. Maybe just think about your comment for a few seconds before you speak it. If it doesn't sound as funny as it did, then say something nice. We mother's need all the encouragement from one another we can get."</I>Teresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659128838097326959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4976283321932512167.post-91637085744388846672008-04-14T01:47:00.000-05:002008-04-14T01:47:00.000-05:00It drives me crazy when people make (what sounds l...It drives me crazy when people make (what sounds like to me negative) comments about the size of my family. I'm a SAHM mom to a 17, 12, and 10 year old daughters and a 8 year old son. <BR/><BR/>I can remember getting comments at the grocery store, "You must be running a daycare?". At the time I also had my step daughter with me, whom we had custody of.<BR/><BR/>Whatever people! I can guarantee I'm raising well adjusted kids who aren't spoiled brats.<BR/><BR/>Sorry for the anonymous post but this subject gets me heated. I'm so heated that I couldn't read past your first paragraph.<BR/><BR/>Those hilarious comments, "Don't you know what causes that?" or "Haven't you heard of birth control?" I just hate those too.<BR/><BR/>Real funny... NOT!!!!! My husband makes over $250,000 a year and we've heard this from his bosses. Its so old and tired I just want to scream.<BR/><BR/>I'm so sorry I'm choosing to scream on your blog.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4976283321932512167.post-25740976347944250632008-04-10T00:27:00.000-05:002008-04-10T00:27:00.000-05:00Kate, I love being "old-fashioned". :-)Kate, I love being "old-fashioned". :-)Teresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659128838097326959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4976283321932512167.post-15489612334958489812008-04-09T19:08:00.000-05:002008-04-09T19:08:00.000-05:00Teresa, as much as I value and gain from your prac...Teresa, as much as I value and gain from your practical, how-to posts, I must tell you that I also value and gain so much from your "encouragement" posts. You truly speak to my heart, thank you!<BR/><BR/>This post is so true. We deal with this all the time from family and friends. My sister and her husband have their children enrolled in every class imaginable and she complains about how it costs so much. But yet she'll tell me that I'm depriving my children by only having them involved in extra-curricular activities that are free. We also have a friend that has told us, SERIOUSLY, that we are ruining our children because they do not get to go out to eat at least once or twice a week.<BR/><BR/>I believe perspectives have just changed so much that it seems like a constant struggle when you embrace a more "old-fashioned" point of view. Our children are HAPPY and LOVED, even though it only costs us $817/yr. to raise them (and I was being generous with my figuring!)<BR/><BR/>Thanks again for such an encouraging post.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03112133327097954479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4976283321932512167.post-34107652240814152762008-04-08T23:41:00.000-05:002008-04-08T23:41:00.000-05:00Missy, Now I never said I didn't occasionally get ...Missy, <BR/>Now I never said I didn't occasionally get worn out or tired.-lol <BR/>I will say this, it was much harder for me when I had 3 little ones 3 and under than it is now. All but the littlest one can do a few things for themselves now. It is a wonderful day when at least one of your children can get their own drink!Teresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15659128838097326959noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4976283321932512167.post-38116282497507441402008-04-08T23:29:00.000-05:002008-04-08T23:29:00.000-05:00I came from a family of six children, I only have ...I came from a family of six children, I only have 3 myself and what I wonder about is how you do it all mentally and physically! I am worn out by 6:30 just about everyday. <BR/>I never felt deprived, (my dad was a high school teacher and my mom was a sahm.)in fact many times I felt I had more than other my friends because my parents were frugal and in some cases gave us more for less. This is a great post! Can't wait to read the other part! You are right about it being more about relationships than money.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07902747752891232721noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4976283321932512167.post-83060534498519480722008-04-08T22:35:00.000-05:002008-04-08T22:35:00.000-05:00Very insightful post. I always laugh at the figur...Very insightful post. I always laugh at the figures they use on how much it costs to raise a child. My children are far from deprived and we manage way below that.Nicolehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15882915902110469241noreply@blogger.com