Wednesday, February 27, 2008

A Heart for Home - Part 1

Home Sweet Home by T. C. Chiu
Home Sweet Home

I have so many women who look at me and ask, "How in the world do you do it all?" I almost have to chuckle, because secretly I am thinking the same thing of them. The best piece of advice I can give them is to stay home!

If I did everything that most women expect themselves to do, I wouldn't be able to do it all. I mean, how in the world would I be able to volunteer in every area that needs help, take the kids to every activity known to man, plus be expected to keep up with the responsibilities of running a home. Oh, don't forget to add work in there for lots of women. It becomes nearly impossible to do everything well.

Oh, you can do it all, but can you do it well? How long can you keep it up? When you are running around here and there, think about it, what is the first thing that gets pushed aside? Usually it is your home. I have seen so many women fall into a deep depression after being run ragged. They are trying to do everything, for everybody. They end up depressed, then bitter at their husbands and children for not doing more to help. The problem is not with their husbands or their children. The fault lies with them.

While trying to be best wife, mother, and woman we can, we end up not being our best at all. Our marriages are falling apart, our kids are no closer to us than we were to our own parents, and we get burnt out helping others.

Our first priority, as mothers, is to take care of our family and our homes. The rest comes way after the first is taken care of. Look at what the Bible has to say about this.

"Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God."Titus 2: 3-5, NIV

I learned something interesting while studying this scripture. The word "train" here means to "give a thirst for." Why I may not be considered an older woman, I do want to give you, as fellow women, encouragement to have a thirst for home. To know the overwhelming feeling of peace and contentment that comes from having a heart for home.

I will finish up with part 2 as I have time. Remember, I am a busy mother to 6 children.


Jodie said...

This is great - well said. I'm so grateful that I get to be home with our kids. We do send them to school, but I don't have to work and I'm home with the younger ones, and I love it. I wouldn't want to be anywhere else!

I'm a big word nerd, so I LOVE the meaning of the word train. That's a great word picture.

Keep it up Mama T- you're spurring me on. :)

Jodie said...

Also I wanted to say - although I get to stay home, reading your posts does give me a greater thirst for home - to make the most of my time and really put my heart in my home. And I'm sure there are many others who feel the same!

neighboor across the street said...

I know at one time you were a career women and you had a family then...even while you were in school...if you have time, I would like to know how you balanced that aspect of your life.

Mama T said...

Howdy neighbor,
You know I always love to share, but i'll tell you one thing now. I haven't been career minded for a long time. Sure, I had a great career, but it wasn't what really mattered in my life.
Don't miss the point of this post though, it's not a call to have every woman quit their jobs, to stop volunteering, or to pull their kids out of every activity. It's about setting your priorites. Not trying to have a super woman complex, taking on the world while everything comes crashing down around you.
I should be able to finish this post by tomorrow if you're interested in hearing the rest. Have a great day!

neighbor said...

Of course I'll keep reading...and perhaps our conversation will continue outside of your blog...more than likely when I make over to your house. :)

I know your focus on your blog is specific to your life at home, which I think is great.

Kudos to you, because it's something I wouldn't see myself doing..and that's probably due to the fact that I was raised by a career women (and come from a long line of career women)long, long before it was the thing to have a career.

Carlie said...

I was just thinking - isn't it amazing how God works? You knew what you wanted and knew where you wanted to go in life but God has his own plans. I know God is the only one who could have change you're mind and have you do a complete 180 like you did. It's really a gift from God that you can be happy, content and successful staying home (exactly where HE wanted you to be). Amazing what He'll do when we turn ourselves over to Him. Rock on! LOL!